Showing posts with label breastfeeding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label breastfeeding. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

News and thoughts with fears

I'm 5 weeks and two days pregnant, according to my iPhone pregnancy app. I'm excited. Though i always feel like it's hard to get as excited as the people i tell. I just can't get really excited over and over with out it being fake.
I mean, i am excited. I wanted to have kids close in age. I always wished i had a brother or sister. But there are so many things I'm concerned about.
My main concern is breastfeeding Luke. I wanted to nurse him until he naturally weans. I mean, i know i can nurse through pregnancy and beyond but i am worried it won't work out. There's always the change in milk, the decreased amount of milk, etc etc. My son is a comfort nurser, and my husband re-assures me that he needs to nurse and would probably nurse even if there was no milk at all. But I still want all the benefits if nursing for him.
Which leads me to my next concern and idea- I've never left Luke somewhere much less over night, he woud be fine for a litte bit at a friends or family but a hospital birth is out of the question since he still wakes up to nurse in the night and nurses to sleep most nights. And I really don't want to push that until I know he's ready. (I know some will think that is crazy but it's how we parent). For this reason and for my always wanting to have a home birth, I am going down that road, which is probably also just as popular as tandem nursing lol.
Anyway, I suppose most of my blog posts from here will be about this. I couldn't remember a thing from my pregnancy with Luke so I'm hoping to record more about it this time.
So far I'm feeling pretty good. I am seeing spots in my eyes sometimes, like an ocular migraine with out the headache. My. Midwife says it's the blood flowing other places that my head. I'm wondering if its lack of caffiene. (still driking some coffee but trying to cut back. Or that i need to drink and eat more to support pregnancy AND nursing. Either way, it's been a few days since i've seen spots! My lower back hurt a lot yesterday. But other Than those observations everything is going well. Even nursing is going ok, no sore breasts yet, even though I'm parinoid in wondering if my milk tastes different yet, so far so good.
I look forward to seeing how everything plays out. Prayers are greatly appreciated for baby and Luke and for me, and i suppose my loving husband who is just so kind in taking over more chores and things so i can rest, even though i don't feel like i need to yet.
Anyway, I'll write more about the home birth and my midwife later. Time for my limited amount of coffee... now!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Nursing

In light of the Nursing in Public Carnival I have been thinking about all the people and situations that have influenced breastfeeding for me.
I assumed I would breastfeed when I was pregnant. In fact, I didn't do any research at all, I just thought that's what you did unless you had some different circumstance (like I was adopted so not breastfed). Then, a friend of my parents (who breastfed all her kids until one) asked me 'are you breastfeeding?' I was kind of taken back. I just thought everyone breastfed. She gave me a breastfeeding book when I told her that I was planning on it. When I started reading it (mostly after my son was born) I realized how breastfeeding wasn't exactly the norm. I had no idea!
When I would first go to my in-laws after we had our son, and after my sister-in-law had her baby a month and a half later, I saw her nurse. She just did it, right out in the living room in front of all of us. And easily too! I was so jealous. I had been going back into another room because I had to take my shirt and bra off just to get a good latch (I had a lot of problems in the beginning). When she wasn't looking, I watched her. It was so easy and I knew that's what breastfeeding was supposed to look like. I really looked up to her for that.
When my son was about 2 months old I started going to a new mom's breastfeeding group at a local store. The first day, I told the lady who led the meeting that I didn't know how to nurse in public. I didn't know how to get him latched on with out just like ripping my shirt off. She showed me. My son latched on, and I nursed wonderfully, in public, for the first time ever. It helped that there were so many supportive moms there who nursed openly there too. I watched them all, trying to see how everyone did it. I learned so much there.
Then, just to get it down, when I was at my parents for the weekend, I decided just to try breastfeeding in front of everyone to practice. It was easy. After that weekend I felt free. Free to go anywhere and nurse my son.
Now, I don't think I'm as worried about it. I don't think I even think about whether or not I can nurse. I just do it. I guess I sometimes nurse in private, but only to get my son to go to sleep or to leave a room of distractions. But I do have to admit that I feel a little less sure about myself now that Luke is older than one year. I always wonder what people are thinking about me and if they approve or disapprove. I try really hard to ignore that because if I'm confident then no one will think twice. I have even come up with something to say if someone says 'you're still nursing him?' I will say 'yeah, the American Academy of Family Physicians (i think that's the one, they just came out with something last year about this) recommends nursing until 2 to prevent disease.' I haven't had to say anything yet.
I'm so happy that I've found so many mothers in my life and at blogs that are so pro-breastfeeding. It has really helped me through my journey, especially now when it's really not the norm.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Why Nurse past one...

I saw someone comment about their one year old son's eating. They said my son wanted some cherrios she said, well eat this fruit first then I'll give you the cherrio. Granted, I think she still nurses but I'll make my point anyway.
I've seen parents do this. The... eat this first... then you can have this. Don't get me wrong. I'm all about healthy eating. Trust me, it's almost an obsession. I have even turned my non salad eating Step Mom and husband into people that actually ask for salads.
I'm so health conscious that I am going to let my son eat whatever he wants. Why? He's still getting every thing he needs from breast milk.
According to www.kellymom.com...

In the second year (12-23 months), 448 mL of breastmilk provides:
  • 29% of energy requirements
  • 43% of protein requirements
  • 36% of calcium requirements
  • 75% of vitamin A requirements
  • 76% of folate requirements
  • 94% of vitamin B12 requirements
  • 60% of vitamin C requirements
How can any food match that? Cow's milk?? No way! You'd have to eat a lot of stuff to equal all of that. I've never seen a toddler eat that kind of health food... not to mention enough food to get that many vitamins. Maybe if your kid is a super kid. Luke is a week out from being one. I haven't seen him eat much of anything in one day. I mean he'll have a small piece of bread, or a couple crackers, or a slice of orange, or some berries. But it's not like he's eating complete meals. Even I don't know if I eat those amounts of vitamins at one meal. I can't imagine switching him off of breastmilk, which was specifically designed for him and him alone, to milk made from and for another animal.
As long as he's nursing, I don't have to worry about his nutrition. I don't have to worry about jamming things into his body to make sure he's getting vitamins. And, when he's sick, and won't eat a thing, I can always count on nursing.
I'm excited to see how nursing after one will be, I've seen the kids that do. They are some healthy kids.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

A book I love

I have been reading 'Breastfeeding and Natural Child Spacing' by Sheila Kippley. It was recommended on Cave Mother's blog. Sheila is a Catholic Author who founded Natural Family Planning International with her Husband John. With the excessive amount of information I've read about NFP, I've never heard of this book until I heard about it on her blog. So I was excited to find another resource. It seems as though there is lots of NFP information (the easy part) but not as much about after childbirth.
Anyways, I haven't gotten to much NFP yet but I absolutely LOVE the parenting view in this book. Particularly chapter 5, 'Schedules, Sitters, and Social Life'. It talks about how nature designed Mother and Baby to be together as one and how scheduled feedings and baby sitters disrupt this natural togetherness. She talks about how in Africa, most mothers are with their babies up until 15 months old vs our culture where there is a huge need for parents to 'get away' from their babies. 'It is obvious that nature intended mother and baby to be one. In fact, a nursing mother who gives her total love and care for her baby will experience a relationship that she may never have with other persons.' (pg 38) Then the book goes on to say 'It apears that some of our cultural theories care lack common sense and feelings. Mothers sometimes are told that they should let their baby cry, that it is good to frustrate the baby. The baby seems to be looked upon as a 'thing' with out feelings, almost lacking any human rights to be heard, understood and loved.' I love quotes from books like this where I actually feel like they way I feel about my baby is normal. I have a really strong urge to not be separated from my baby. (with the exception of a little bit when Ben watches him and I go for a jog, or to eat icecream in the living room) But getting a baby sitter, even if it was family, feels really strange to me still. I know that is so counter cultural and probably who ever reads this is going to think 'get over it, you have to leave sometime'. While I do appreciate Luke's long naps where I can play on the computer or watch tv, I feel that it's my natural instinct to want to be with him. And there will be a sometime when we will separate, it won't be now. He really needs his mom, and I really need him.
'Could it be that the abrupt severing of the physical relationship between mother and baby that is so common today is responsible in some way for the impared relationship between many of our young people and their parents?' (p 50)

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Oh how the turn tables.

(the title is a quote from the office)

As I reflect on my thoughts and feelings about being a mom before I was a mom I think of how much I have changed. As a practicing Natural Family Planner, before I had a baby, I was horrified that I would have to do 'ecological breastfeeding' to help with infertility after childbirth. I would never have imagined myself letting my baby suckle when ever he needs or even breastfeed around the clock. What about ME? I always imagined many nights away with bottles of milk on hand so I could 'get away'.
Now what am I? I am an ecological breastfeeder. I nurse my baby when he needs it. There is no 'schedule'. When he's hungry, he gets it. When he needs a little extra comfort, he gets it. When he's sick, he gets it. In the middle of the night when he nuzzles into me because he knows I'm right next to him, he gets it.
Now I can't imagine not having our breastfeeding relationship any different. Now I have an extra special bond with my baby. Now I'm an ecological breastfeeder. Now I have the added benefit of longer lactational amenorrhea. Now I'm 'one of those moms'. And I love it.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

I can see the other side

I know why people wouldn't breastfeed their babies. It's hard.
Right now I'm having some pain because Luke bit me the other day. I'm wondering if it's a clogged duct now? Or an infection? Or just soreness from where he bit me? It hurts a lot now when ever he nurses.
I've had almost every possible thing while breastfeeding Luke. I've had Mastitis, Thrush, Clogged Duct here and there, cracked and sore nipples. Luckily, most things I've only had once. I got mastitis the second day after we took Luke home from the hospital. I felt a little run down and feverish. I took my temperature, 102.7... Whoa! That's not so good after having a baby. I called my midwives and they wanted me to go to ER to rule out any kid of other infection. Long story short, I was there for 6 hours in the night because it was so busy. Next was Thrush which I had when Luke was 4 months old. It was horrible, it was like starting all over. I was sore and had to pump a lot. Now I have this. I'm not even sure what it is.
But, if I could go back, would I have just done formula? No way! Not only have I given Luke the best thing for him, we have created such a bond through nursing. I wouldn't trade it for the world. But can I see why someone would give up? Yes I can, breastfeeding is hard!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Mothering your nursing toddler

I just bought the book "Mothering Your Nursing Toddler".
Ok, So, Luke isn't a toddler yet. I am sure this question is going to come up as his 1st birthday gets closer. Am I going to breastfeed past 1 year? Yes I am.
When I was pregnant, I just assumed that I would wean my baby at one. The more research I do, the more I'm wondering why 1 year is some magical time everyone has decided on. The AAP recommends breastfeeding for at least one year and then as long as the child and mother want to. The the World Health Organization recommends at least 2 years! They say the milk changes after one to a milk that is better for a toddler. From the website Kelly Mom there are so many wonderful benefits. Nursing toddlers benefit nutritionally, they are sick less often, they have fewer allergies, they are smart, more independence, and it's NORMAL. I thought it was normal to begin with considering no one in my mothers group has weaned at one, even though the statistics say not many mothers do. Also, benefits for the mother are delay in the return of fertility (which, if you must know, I am enjoying right now), reduces the risk of cancer(breast, ovarian, endometrial), protects against arthritis, osteoporosis, decreases insulin doses in diabetic women, AND breastfeeding women lose weight easier (I've even heard that even more comes off the second year of breastfeeding, I'll let you know). So my question is, why would I wean at one?
Looking past the 'recommendations' from others (which I feel like the more and more I do with parenting) I see my baby not ready yet. That is more important to me than the list of stuff above. I can see that weaning early would destroy this wonderful relationship that I have with Luke. I know when one year comes along, he won't be ready. I think that is more important for me to take into consideration than all the great facts and all the knowledge about it. That's how I want to be. I don't care what other people are doing with their own children, I want to do what's best for Luke for him. I don't think anyone, whether it's a well meaning friend or family member, or the AAP, I am Luke's Mom, and I know instinctively what is best for him. Too often mothers don't follow their instinct about their own children because of what they are 'supposed to do'. I am not that way. I want to have a sacrificial love for my son.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Swimming and doing things one handed with a baby

Luke and I usually go swimming on Wednesday morning with some other moms and their babies. Today, Luke got his first scrape with blood. We were in the kid pool and there is an island thing that the kids can walk around. It is just about at Luke's height to cruise around. He was half in my arms and half trying to climb and stand up and grab the wall when he hit his chin on the side. He fussed a little but then was fine. The other mom I was with noticed that he had some blood on his chin. Sure enough, he scraped himself when he hit! I took him to this bathroom by the side of the pool. I tried to hold a piece of tissue to his face to try and stop the bleeding, which is hard to do on a 9 month old. The bleeding finally stopped (it wasn't that much). Then I decided that he was probably not going to make it much longer in the pool so I grabbed our stuff and headed back into the family locker rooms but they were full. I decided it would just be easier to go back to the small bathroom I was in before and just change. Luke was starting to get a little fussy. I knew he needed to nurse. I started taking his swim suit off to put his diaper back on and he really wasn't having it. He was HUNGRY and now starting to cry. What do I do, What do I do? This bathroom was small. It's a one person bathroom with a toilet, sink and a pull down changing table. The bathroom was like really not good for changing myself and a baby. There was no place to sit but the toilet and there were no hooks or anything to hang our stuff. So Luke started really wanting to nurse so just I threw my towel down on the ground (sick I know) and sat down and pulled my swimsuit down and nursed him. Yes, I was literally sitting on the floor of a public bathroom breastfeeding my baby. lol.
After a while I was starting to worry since it's not really a changing room, I wanted to get out as soon as possible. How was I going to change myself and get out AND nurse Luke, is this possible? Well it turns out it is. I one handed-ly took my swim suit off and put on all my clothes with one hand, while nursing and holding Luke in the other hand. Then I threw a towel around Luke and my body to cover up, still nursing, and got our stuff and went and sat on one of the chairs by the pool to finish nursing so we could go home. Boy, was that hard. When Luke was 2 months old, I could hardly even nurse him anywhere else but the computer chair in my room. Now I'm so good at multi-tasking-nursing, I was so proud of myself
On the way home from swimming I decided to get Usa and I some coffee at New Seasons. Luke is passed out at this point. So with a sleeping baby in hand I ordered two coffee's, took them one at a time to the car. First I put Usa's americano in the car, then I went back into the store with my reusable grocery bag, got something to eat, put the food in the bag, grabbed the other coffee, paid for my stuff and went back to the car... all while holding Luke.
I'm so good. It's so amazing how good we get at adapting to life with a little one.